Well at the surface, your friends or a family member can just joke that you are shy. However, diving deeper into what is happening you can realize that society’s hidden norms are manifesting themselves around the clock. The norms suggest that you are not supposed to be loud, that you are not supposed to talk to a stranger, and there are many others that sometimes don’t make any sense depending on the situation. Well even though they are meant to be beneficial to us, the trick is realizing that it is beneficial to society as a whole and not particularly to you. The bulk of all these norms is called social conditioning.
For instance, a few years ago, I noticed that the more prevention oriented I became the less happy and enthusiastic I got about life. In the end, you feel disappointed in yourself. To remedy this low state of mind, I became an avid learner of cold approach. In other words, not waiting for a signal to talk to a stranger or not just relying on your social circle to get introduced to new people. At this point, I have at least 10 thousand people that I cold approached under my belt and this number will quadruple soon.
- You become a lifelong learner about a range of topics that would come up in your interactions.
- You desensitize yourself to the fear of rejection and this is huge…
- You grow your social bank account at an exponential rate.
- You become more and more emotionally intelligent. Practice makes perfect!
What you realize is that by taking the initiative, people will ask you questions about your life or projects that you have going. This does two things: first, you will know more about yourself than ever; second, you will become a master at pitching your ideas.
That will all come down to incremental positive changes in your behavior and personality that you have never thought would be possible. Then the sooner you notice the shift, the sooner you realize the importance of building your own brand and come out of your comfort zone.
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